Way #24: Deciding Who Needs-To-Know About Ones Gluten-Sensitivity Might Help One Attain Gluten-Free Simplicity
Posted by nepeht on December 18, 2008
24. Deciding Who Needs-To-Know About Ones Gluten-Sensitivity Might Help One Attain Gluten-Free Simplicity.
What exactly do I mean by this? Good question.
OK, this is probably a very different proposition for different people. It has to do with ones place in life, ones psycho-social needs, ones degree of self-esteem etc…
If you are a person of rock-solid self image and you are totally NOT vulnerable to the actions of anyone else, then by all means, go out and broadcast your medical history to everyone you find. Put it on a shirt. Make an audio announcement of it and blurt it out of your car stereo.
But if you are like most of us, and it does matter how others see you, how they treat you, and it also sometimes matter what others think of you in terms of making decisions that could impact your life (like whether or not to hire you or promote you or sell you health insurance), you might want to be careful who you tell about the Gluten thing.
I say this from experience. Sure, on a blog, we can talk all we want…. but what are the chances that our alleged condition(s) can be determined BY anyone OUT THERE… if you know what I mean??? Probably very small. The satisfaction I get from writing this and sharing these thoughts is well worth it. At the same time, I might be at lunch with my workmates, and few (if any) of them even have a clue about my special dietary needs.
Why? Because discrimination happens. It just does. I wish it did not. But it does.
Now, about who needs-to-know. Who does need-to-know in ones life about such issues?
- I would think that a romantic partner should probably know about such important health concerns as soon as a meaningful relationship becomes desirable.
- In emotionally functional families one would think that all first-generation blood relatives should know. This way they can have the option of getting themselves tested. I take that back. Perhaps ALL blood kin should be told. Just be careful that one does not expect unrealistic responses from certain incapable people … you know who I mean.
- Anyone’s dependents or children who are old enough to understand should know because they will likely understand one and ones moods better.
- The person who buys the groceries and cooks should know.
- I often disclose to anonymous food-service peeps who often reply with compassion. But they also (almost) just as often reply with crazy statements, like, “That’s ok, you don’t have to eat the wheat, we have white bread too”. At least they mean well and that means a lot to me.
- If you have a secretary who books your mealtimes with meetings, they should know.
- Any person who frequently gives you edible gifts should know.
So, help me out here…. who else????