Posted by nepeht on October 6, 2009
#45: Keep that Isolation in Check on the Way Toward Gluten-Free Simplicity
Ever just wish you could be alone? Of course you do. Probably everyone does here and there. But…… what if it is more often than one thinks is normal? “Maintaining a strictly gluten-free diet can cause feelings of isolation” according to an article about Gluten Free Online Social Communities by Marissa Carter (Sept. 29, 2009). She writes,
“It is hard for these people to adjust to the food culture in America, knowing that every bite of food they eat may cause them to get sick. Ordering at restaurants becomes a chore and attending dinner parties becomes a major challenge. Often, they begin feeling like they are a burden to others. Even people who have very supportive parents, spouses and friends feel the need to reach out to others who will really understand them.” Read More.
All I can say directly to her opinion is, “I heard that!!!” This is one good reason for my present posting. Watch out for that tendency to isolate. Yes, some isolation is probably very good for the soul. But, too much can be dangerous. And do I isolate on purpose when I do isolate? No…. not always…
Sometimes, I Just Feel Like an Isolated Bump on a Far Away Planet (c.2009, WTB)
But I do (I really really do) sometimes feel like I am a lone bump on a far away planet. Once in a while, I get a feeling that I am all alone. The metamessages at almost any social meal time, grocery trip, and other times and places are often seeming to beckon me into an isolative state where it no longer feels strange or hurtful to have to be so different when it comes to one of almost every human being’s most basic functions — eating.
The problem though… isolation can lead to lots of other problems. (eg., depression, feeling left out, getting behind etc…). Just think about it this way… If a person is isolated then they can begin to think things and form habits that are all wrong. The reality checks inherent in social interaction can often be very healing. Like if I am feeling really down on myself for something that I did and I am wondering if I did THE WRONG THING…. I can often turn to a trusted friend or colleague and ask for their take on it. It is soooooo wonderful for me when I do so after wringing my hands for hours… only to find that I actually did the right thing afterall.
Also… there can be lots of good healing energy out there in public with loved ones, friends, family and colleagues for those of us with Celiac Disease. NOT ALWAYS… of course… there are unfortunately times when either due to one of their comments or one of my inferences, I feel like being alone instead. But still in all, yes, sometimes, it just feels so good to be alive and around good people.
So if you are one of us who is often finding yourself alone and feeling lonely… do something about it! Here are a few ideas:
- Go online as Carter suggests and seek out information or just chat.
- Try to prepare a Gluten-Free recipe, then offer a review to the author.
- Take a walk and make a point to say hello to a person.
- Call an old friend or family member and ask them how they are doing.
- Stop by a restaurant, health food or grocery store and politely ask responsive staff members about their Gluten-Free selection.
- Write a letter to a manufacturer, a publication or a friend about something that you feel passionate about (i.e., Celiac Disease or Gluten-Free Living).
I am sure you can probably come up with even better ideas. Go ahead and do something. And just so I don’t get too lonely, Please let me know how it turns out.
Posted in 100 Ways to G-F Simplicity | Tagged: celiac disease symptom, Depression, Gluten Free, Gluten Free Online Communities, Isolation | 2 Comments »
Posted by nepeht on June 22, 2009
Way #40: Awareness of one’s Celiac-Related Painful Feelings might help one move toward Simplicity
Life is not easy. It is just that simple. And for people with Celiac Disease, one could argue, that life is a bit more complicated, thus LESS easy that it is for many others.
And I truly believe that not one of us deserves the Extra Pain that Celiac Disease provides for us. I really do.
With these assorted and abundant extra pains of ours naturally come emotions… I mean it would be normal if we actually felt some emotions in their wake. It is these emotions that I am writing about here.
I get depressed, shamed, angry, wanna isolate, feel rage, serious bouts of loss, etc….. etc….. etc…..
And that is probably a lot like many other people — with or without Celiac Disease.
What is different though, is that we tend to get a whole lot of it and on a pretty consistent basis. Sure, I find that the more I am able to live in a Gluten-Free way, the better I feel…. But there seems always to still be that train in that tunnel that is heading straight for me when ever I decide to acknowledge it.
So I am just saying here that when we have such feelings, they tend to show on us… no matter what we do to hide them. So then, rather than denying them, why not allow ourselves to feel them (within reason and safety limits)?
FOr us with Celiac Disease, it seems these pains and their emotions are gonna come and go…. but probably come again, more often than any of our non-CD folks can really understand.
So I am suggesting that the first step to dealing with all of that will be to accept them as part of our normal daily life… and then try to be aware of them as we learn more and more constructive ways of channelling the enormous bounty of energy they tend to generate into increasingly positive outcomes…
Try it. I am trying to try it… my self.
Posted in 100 Ways to G-F Simplicity | Tagged: Anger, Celiac Disease, Coeliac, Depression, emotions, feelings, Isolation, Pain, positive energy | Leave a Comment »
Posted by nepeht on October 23, 2008
Gluten Relapse can be painful indeed.
By “pain”, I speak of a pain with three distinct but probably related dimensions — Physical, Emotional and Social:
Physical Pain: Pain may be sharp or dull. It may come and go, or it may be constant. You may feel pain in one area of your body, such as your back, abdomen or chest or you may feel pain all over, such as when your muscles ache from the flu. http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/pain.html.
and Emotional Pain: The feeling that I have failed in my attempt to stay Gluten-Free. This feeling can be pretty awful when one considers that one is well aware of the damage being done during a relapse. It is common during such episodes for one to question whether or not and/or just how one loves ones self.
finally, Social Pain: What do others think of a person who is known to be allergic to gluten, yet she/he purposely ingests it? What would you think? Would it effect the way you see a person. Might this lead to more isolation, more depression and more disease?
So why am I writing this?
I guess my prayer is that if you are a person who needs to be gluten-free and you have experienced relapse, then you experienced one or all three of the above sensations, you can know that you are not alone. Hopefully, this will contribute to a sense of support for you as you go through this.
Posted in G-F PsychoBabble, The Personal Side | Tagged: Depression, Gluten Relapse, Isolation, Pain, Physical Pain | 1 Comment »